Dealing with your emotions through divorce
You feel overwhelmed, physically and mentally exhausted
By Antonette Schminke
Each one of us deal with emotions differently
ANGER / HURT / DISAPPOINTMENT / HEARTBREAK / FAILURE…
The devastation that you feel around divorce is normal, and dealing with your emotions through a divorce can be hard, but you should know… for every action there is a re-action!
Every time you feel hurt, or ashamed or angry, you’re going to do something with it! The energy that keeps on building, will come back to you in some or other form like ANGER / BLAME / AVOIDANCE.
“I feel like I want to die. And I feel like I can’t be a Christian now, because I’m suicidal and homicidal. I feel like killing everybody that hurt me. I’m angry, bitter, scared in insecure. I’m planning crazy stuff because that’s where my mind goes. It’s hard to admit but it’s true.”
You are facing TRAUMA! And you know what, it’s much easier to cause hurt than to feel hurt. It’s much easier to inflict pain than to feel pain.
Dangerous Stories that we tell ourselves
Whenever we face trauma our minds immediately goes into a FIGHT / FLIGHT / FREEZE state. Our brains go in overdrive because it’s wired for survival. So, what do we do? We make up dangerous stories and we tell it to ourselves and our minds get chemically rewarded for that story, whether it is true or not.
It’s hard to focus on just one emotion when you go through a divorce because you are dealing with so many of them all at once. And sometimes these dangerous stories is actually a dangerous lie that we feed ourselves for survival.
BUT… WE NEED TO PAUSE AND TAKE THE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT WE ARE EMOTIONALLY HURT, AND WE NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IS GOING ON.
WE NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR EMOTIONS BECAUSE YOUR HEALING IS NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHER PEOPLE!
YOU ARE ENOUGH! JUST THE WAY THAT YOU ARE!
You might question your love-ability! You might feel that you need to prove yourself to be worthy of love. These feelings are normal but THAT… IS a dangerous lie!
What is the truth?
This is just a moment in your life – just a moment… BUT! How you deal with this devastating moment will affect the rest of your life. THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, so lean into every possible emotion that you feel through your divorce or separation and PUSH THROUGH! Get comfortable and stand firmly on two feet, because you CAN! And you WILL!
You are not alone and only you can take responsibility for your life. Join our divorce support group and GUARD YOUR HEART with a safe platform to find YOU again!